Why are Software Developers rude to Recruiters and everybody else?

Have you had moments when people who know you completely dismiss your plans, dreams, and more…?

Were those “your plans are stupid” and “stop daydreaming” things muttered to you by your closest ones?

Your cynical closest ones may be working in the software development and/or programming industries.

People from any of these two industries are notorious for their rude behaviors. At some points, I even witnessed them sounding disrespectful towards their workmates, managers, and recruiters.

Such rudeness makes us wonder, “Why are software developers rude to recruiters, managers, and everybody else in the workplace?

So, that’s why I write this article. I plan to provide you with the top reasons why software developers are rude

In the end, you’ll know if software developers and programmers are born that way. Later, you’ll find this one in the conclusion part.

Reason #1: They rarely socialize with anyone and have solution-oriented mindsets

Software Developers work behind the scenes. Even if they are parts of the companies, large, thick physical walls usually prevent them from interacting with other workers.

Worse, these people can only dream of socializing with other workers… Then again, IF, and ONLY IF, they want to…

You may raise your eyebrows and wonder, why are those things happening–and only to software developers and programmers?

I see people who prefer or consistently work behind the scenes are usually people who prefer being alone to socializing with friends.

Such traits are usually followed with their solution-oriented approaches to everything.

Do you know that it’s usual for people to ask software developers and programmers how to fix “this” and “that” (especially problems related to electronic devices)? Also, do you know that such things can’t be answered by “I feel you bb”, “You must be going through many things” and more – because those statements don’t solve problems?

So, these things are the reasons why developers are rude to their workmates.

Yet, are those reasons enough in describing why programmers are rude to recruiters and managers?

I’ll advise you to continue reading to know more about other reasons.

Reason #2: They believe themselves too much

The workplace has consistently labeled software developers, programmers, and, any IT-centered jobs, as the “future jobs”.

I guess such labels are reasonable. After all, e-wallets, travel cards, and the likes are everywhere today, even cryptocurrencies and robotic assistants that can physically appear in front of us.

I wonder how these entire “dead” things can come alive if not because of highly-skilled developers and programmers. In other words, we can’t enjoy them if people working in the IT industry are not giving them lives.

Not every job can raise the dead. The primary job description itself already sounds prestigious and high-paid.

However, these things are already bread and butter for software developers and programmers.

Chances are they have attended hackathons, programming simulations, coding academies, and other so-sophisticated courses that you won’t find in any other jobs.

If they ever have weaknesses, such as graduating slower than their peers or having a bad GPA in uni, they can coat these things so well with their strengths.

These people ultimately have higher salaries than people in other departments… Even the entry levels.

What if they stayed loyal to an organization that they climbed up the management ladder? Then, what if they changed companies all of a sudden?

I bet they’ve written lots of things in their CVs that prove their credentials. In other words, their experiences, skills, courses, portfolio collections, and more prove they are different from their other peers.

So, it’s safe to say they believe in themselves too much. Unfortunately, they also bring rudeness and arrogance to their managers and recruiters.

No doubt that many of them work best as freelancers or independent contractors. Amazingly, though, some managers and recruiters tolerate their behaviors, and they are not even their friends or relatives.

Reason #3: They learn no courses of empathy and understanding

Software developers, and other IT workers deal with robots regularly. 

Now, who’s going to debate me by saying that robots can have empathy, understanding, and the ability to communicate like humans – even though humanoid AIs do exist?

Rudeness usually means a lack of empathy and understanding towards other people. For software developers and programmers, these two things are not only all about robots.

The courses also don’t teach empathy, understanding, and practice, things about how to feel our feelings and other people’s feelings. It just sounds weird.

Imagine the “YOU DON’T KNOW H0W 1 F33LLL!!11” part popped up in a programming course. For example, IT workers will almost always see those messages as faulty programming that needs some FIXES… This, in turn, would lead them to Reason #1 above.

Even when developers relax from their jobs, they tend to relax differently.

The definition of the developers’ relaxation periods is as simple as watching Netflix, daydreaming about the future, playing some ole’ PlayStation games, and more. No feelings attached at all.

No wonder, these things also become parts of why software developers are rude to you, me, and everyone.

So, I hope, you no longer wonder why software developers and programmers are rude when you see them anywhere you go.

Some final words

So, it’s clear now why software developers and programmers are rude to everyone. There are at least a few reasons: They are secluded, solution-oriented, believe in themselves too much, and almost have no ideas about human feelings.

Like politeness, we can train ourselves to be less rude, no matter what our professions are.

I believe software developers and programmers can go outside their comfort zone too, at least, learn to be considerate of other people’s feelings.

In particular, allocating time to learn outside their experiences and expertise can be more convenient when IT workers like them are working independently.

Even then, IT workers who are part of a specific company can have free time outside their job to learn new things, including how not to be rude to everyone.